you learn so much.
we had some company over christmas eve, a family i grew up with my whole life. the father has alzheimer's since about 6 months ago and its been getting progressively worse. he keeps forgeting things, and yet, he has his wife taking care of him. he hasnt forgotten her. how does she feel though? so empty. one day, he might forget her and then what? she cant make love to her husband anymore. she cant be taken out on a date by her husband, surprised by her husband with a gift now and then. that spark must be dwindling, only fed by memories. we brought up one of those memories at dinner and it was as though she had catalogued them all in her mind as vividly as she could. she corrected every little detail my father recounted incorrectly. i dont know if it was that obvious, but i could tell she had a firm grasp of those memories. she wasnt ready to let them go. meanwhile, her husband sat there chuckling at me eating my dinner. damn. i almost cried during dinner.
after, we all sat down and watched "UP," my first time. i couldnt believe how much it related to this situation. mr frederickson wouldnt let go of ellie and i just want something like that so bad. something that true. its amazing how precious that is and how many people dont care to find that. theyll settle. how could you settle on something like that?
ill find my ellie.
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